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On Thursday, February 22nd, Jon said
I have a number of things to say on these topics. Here they are in no particular order:
1) Whether or not "it" goes away depends entirely on YOU and YOUR frame of mind. You are the only one that can make anything mentally or emotionally exhausting. I know this. I make myself nuts over things I can't help all the time. A basic change of frame of mind is the only thing that will help. Seek therapy. ;-)
And stop taking everything so personally. Not every piece is your opus. You're allowed to have whims, errors, hiccups, etc. Besides, if everyone likes your work, then nobody LOVES it.
2) College is simple and fun compared to the real world. It's hard work, and long hours, and they expect a lot of you, but at least they expect you to do your best no matter how long you take or how many hours you put in, or how late you stay up. In the real world they want your best work, and they want you to do it fast so that it'll be cheap. So, put that in your pipe and smoke it.
3) If you are doing it for the money you are doing it for the wrong reason and you will fail. As long as you can pay your bills you don't have to worry about it. Do what makes you happy. The rest will figure itself out.
4) You don't make money off your degree. You make money off your ideas and your skills. You need the degree so that employers know you have the framework of knowledge and cognitive ability, but you make your living off your Book.
Here's a quote from a graphic designer I like: "Do what you love and tomorrow will pay the rent." - Felix Sockwell
Don't make yourself crazy. You're already crazy enough to be a good architect, which is pretty crazy. You need be no crazier.
Every time you think you're going nuts, just think about the people out there who dig ditches or someother similarly backbreaking labor for a living. Watch an episode of Dirty Jobs and think "Shit. At least I don't have to do THAT for a living." Because half of those people make less than you will the first year after college, and they're 40 years old and spend their day wading around in shit. Literally.
On Sunday, February 25th, Bernie said
Coincidentally at work, a few of us had a conversation on things we wish we could share with our daughters (not that sons couldn't use it too).
R-E-L-A-X. This doesn't mean don't work hard. Working hard is productive, stress is counterproductive. Looking back on our 30's we all stressed way too much...unfortunately, this seems to be a period in life you go through in order to reach mellow.